How to prepare for anal sex

Sep 22, 2022
How to prepare for anal sex? There are 12 ways, and one thing you should never do

 The sexual experience that most people dream about and that relatively few people engage in is still shrouded in mystery. With these 12 tips, your first anal sex experience will be clean, safe, enjoyable and will culminate in an unforgettable orgasm.

Many are afraid to join the delights of anal sex, so this guide for the first such experience will certainly be very useful to them. That’s what experts advise.

    Talk about him.

To the great regret of those who would like to try, but would not talk about it, experts say: if you are not ready to talk about it, you are not ready to do it. Believe it or not, talking will help you relax and enjoy the act.

Anal sex involves a lot, and it’s up to you whether there will be penetration at all. Do you have an idea of what your first anal sex should look like? Will you use toys or any aids? Is there a line you don’t want to cross? What about lubricants and condoms that make sex more comfortable and safer? In addition, like any other sex, anal sex is not good without foreplay. Do you know what turns your partner on the most?


Before even thinking about putting something else into your anus, you should thoroughly study it, experts say. If the thought of inserting a finger or a sexual device into your own anus scares you, of course, you will not be able to do it with another person.

If you haven’t touched your anus yet, here’s what you should expect. To begin with, you will feel two muscles tense around your finger: an external muscle that you can strain and relax at will, and an internal muscle that controls the autonomic nervous system. To begin with, practice contracting and relaxing the external muscle. When you get used to this feeling, push your finger a little deeper to feel the inner muscle. At the same time, breathe slowly, and you will feel the inner muscles relax.

    Clean the intestines.

This is one of the first things most people think about when they decide to have anal sex. If you didn’t know, the stool is deep enough in the intestine or, in other words, the penis is not long enough to reach it. Therefore, fears that an unpleasant brown mark may appear in the middle of sex are completely unfounded.

If you have an ordinary chair, you can relax, the sheets will remain clean. However, if you want to empty your intestines an hour before anal sex, it won’t hurt. Just like a good shower, a feeling of cleanliness will help you relax and enjoy sex.

If there is no time or opportunity to take a shower, wet wipes will help. Your main goal is to clean up all possible traces that you did not remove after the last chair.

    You can apply an enema.

The process of washing the intestines with liquid (enema) is not an obligatory stage of preparation for anal sex, experts say. If you are one of those for whom nothing is clean enough, do not hesitate to use this method as well. You can purchase a disposable enema kit, which you throw away after use, and do the whole procedure at least an hour before sex.

It is important to know that regular use of enemas can affect the work of the muscles of the anal area and the balance of electrolytes in the intestine.

    Choose lubricants wisely.

Not without good lubrication when it comes to anal sex, because, unlike the vagina, the anus will not naturally get wet when you get excited. When choosing lubricants, keep in mind that water-based lubricants are compatible with silicone toys and are easily washed off clothes and sheets. Silicone lubricants provide the best experience, but they cannot be combined with silicone toys. In addition, it is important to know that no matter how good sex is, oil-based lubricants should not be used with latex condoms, as they are very likely to break.

    Don’t forget steps 1, 2 and 3.

All the prerequisites were met and anal sex loomed on the horizon. This does not mean that you need to skip the foreplay and go straight to penetration. Just as you were able to relax and get excited by exploring your anus, the same is expected of your partner. Use techniques that you are good at, and it is even preferable that you have an orgasm before having anal sex.

Your body is most receptive to pleasure and is ready for arousal when endorphin and oxytocin are at post-orgasm levels.

    Start with anilingus.

Experts recommend anilingus before anal sex, as it helps to relax. A little tongue work in this area will help to relax your mind, as well as the muscles of the anus. It goes without saying that this is an extremely intimate act and that the partners who engage in it should be completely open to each other. At the same time, keep in mind that your saliva is not enough to lubricate the follow-up!

    Toys are a good preparation for anal sex.

If you decide to remember only one thing from this guide, let it be this: never put something in the anus that does not have an extension at the end. Unlike the vagina, the anus is actually the entrance to the endless tunnel of the digestive tract. The expanded design of the toy will not allow her to be somewhere in the depths of this tunnel.

When you have chosen the right toy, you will need a good lubricant and a little patience. Start slowly and gradually push the toy into the anus. If you feel uncomfortable, stop the game and try again another time. Also gradually change the size of the toy. This may take several days, so be patient.

Why is it taking so long? Because anal muscles are the same as any other muscles — when you train them, you increase their ability to tense up and relax at your will. Since your anus is always in a state of contraction, deliberately relaxing the muscles is the key to getting the right experience, and this requires practice and perseverance.

    You can also use your finger.

If you don’t have a toy at hand, a finger will do. The finger "learns" how your anus reacts.

The nice thing about stimulating the anus with your finger is that the partner can massage the muscles of the anus and thereby help them completely relax, which will take you into the world of ultimate pleasure.

    You’re ready!

If you have successfully passed all the stages of preparation, you and your partner are ready for the much-desired anal sex. There are many poses in which you can practice this, but real experts advise starting with a "dog", missionary position or a position on the side. Breathe deeply while your partner enters you inch by inch. At the same time, use your hands to stimulate other sensitive areas on the body, because this will increase pleasure, and you can also use a vibrator and simultaneously stimulate the clitoris. Your partner can do the same with his hand, but be careful — if his finger was in your anus before, he should wash his hands before touching your clitoris or inserting his finger into the vagina.

Always remember the golden rule of anal sex: if it hurts, stop! Anal sex should be fun, not pain. If you feel pain, stop and switch to other activities that give you pleasure. You can always try again.

    Don’t forget about protection.

It is a misconception that a condom is not needed during anal sex. If your partner uses a condom correctly, you will both be protected from sexually transmitted diseases that you or your partner may not even know about.

    Choose only one input.

Never, under any circumstances, stimulate the vagina and anus alternately with a penis or vibrator. The anus is infected with bacteria that can get into the vagina and cause numerous health problems. Your partner is also not immune to bacteria — avoiding or improper use of a condom in a man can lead to the development of a urinary infection.